anthriel wrote:...
(a) the current system means that it's almost never devoid of being toxic (and in fact always seems to lead to more toxicity) ... Cos we've seen through many iterations of it how toxic it gets and how this spills over even to staff dramas/newbies etc; and
(b) EO continues to lose players because of it.... So there are less and less people who are going to "show up" for daedroth to rival against (in fact his post almost sounds like a plea of "please don't quit the game, please keep playing as rivals to my clan because we need someone to be our fight with")
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Point B first:
Actually that was not what I was thinking at all.
I actually prefer to zombie level while watching a movie or reading a book. I help out with clan stuff, because I like to help my clan, but I would prefer just to do my own thing. Although, yeh, I have had fun with the inter clan competition.
The main reason I Posted was because I saw a toxic posting about Eld and thought I would try to say something positive in a vain effort to try and reduce the toxicity levels.
The only thing i will say to the person who posted the Eld thing is this: Don't take everything you read for being literal, there is a lot of shit talk in the Silh clan chat and most of it is not serious: we post lol@we trashed empire AND lol@we got trashed by empire, many times I have saw us laugh when we got trashed, and laugh when we trashed. So yeh, don't take what you read as serious, and if you have an issue contact staff first, posting just inflames things more. Also with Eld... well, love you Eld! but yeh there have been times when (as we Brits say) you really got on my tits, but I believe it's not intentional (or I would have quit clan for good ages ago) he is actually a good guy who will go out of his way to help people, he just get's riled up every so often.
Point A now!:
The toxicity... There have been times when I have got annoyed and posted some snide remark, because I have felt completely vindicated. However I have realised that this does not help anything, so I have stopped. We are all adults... it is mind boggling how childish we can act.
My suggestion is this, we self police each other. All this "he said", "they said", "he did", "they did" nonsense needs to stop.
When we see a clanny starting to go off on one, we TALK to them (leaders especially should do this), tell them to put it into clan chat and keep it there, and then try to calm them down. When we rant "out loud" in game or page our rants to our "enemy", or even post here on the boards, it just inflames things, it will escalate, so a mole hill becomes a mountain.
The leaders of the clans can even... PAGE each other, talk to each other, get things sorted out, you know like... communicate.
Leaders can even temporarily kick people out of the clan.
TLDR? Remember peeps, we are all adults, not kiddies. We do not need to retaliate, we can keep things in clan chat, we can rise above it. We can reduce the toxicity!
It just takes some effort.